Musical Mid-Life Crisis… Help Needed

Arrow pierced ego
Now wounded… looking to heal.
Need cool doctor, stat.
I did a very parent thing this weekend. I have been enjoying the ‘free’ Sirius radio in my new car… and have pre-selected the following stations: 70’s on 7, 80’s on 8, 90’s on 9, Hits 1 and 20 on 20. These last two are my vain (and I do mean vain) attempt to get myself remotely up to speed on current popular music. It’s been funny to switch between decades and listen to what are screamingly different musical styles and markers. What strikes me most about current pop music is the persistent thump thump of the deep bass… Up until recently I thought that every young person listening to the radio was just playing their music overly loud given I could hear them coming 1/4 mile away. But now I realize that is simply the nature of today’s music.

So I was out with the kids running errands , scanning between stations. I settled on something by the Eagles on the 70s on 7 station and began to sing along… and my 10 year daughter, AP, started sighing loudly. Could you please get off this station mom? I turned it up. Mom, anything in this decade please? I turned it up again. You do realize this is music grandma listened to when she was in her 30’s?  Huh, what??? And then I understood it. My daughter went for the low blow… she translated “old music” into the most abhorrent comparison that could possibly be made at that time. While I was sitting there thinking “why I listened to this when I was your age, dear, and how cool that I still know the words” she reached back  a generation to remind me that my mother (who although not “old” in spirit or frame, has started her journey into her 70’s) listened to this when she was younger than I am today.

Ouch. That hurt, I must admit.  (No offence mom… I know you understand.) I responded as maturely as I could at the time. I turned it up again and told her as long as she complained she wasn’t getting anything close to current music. But it has gotten me thinking that I really do need to update my music library on iTunes. I have no illusion that I will be either mother of the year or the coolest mom in the class, but I want to be interestingly eclectic and fun to be around while still maintaining that mystery known as “she’s a mom… who knows what she’ll do”. That requires me to invest a little.

This is all part of my current foray into a modest mid-life crisis. It started with a weekend away in the fall, alone.  It approached its peak on my 45th birthday in February. It continued with the purchase of a car that I thought made me cooler than I am – a combination of  unusual yet practical (a fire engine red Ford Flex with the Eco Boost engine…this last feature allows me to blow away thumping teenagers at stop lights. Yes, that matters to me; see earlier reference to mid-life crisis).  And it may be topping out with recent purchases of a bucket load of clothes at J Jill and the desire to revamp my iPod playlists. At least I hope it has peaked… I’m going broke.

Here’s the problem. I have no idea what music to buy. And I’ll be damned if I’m going to ask AP for her thoughts. I refuse to show weakness. I just want to slip in a few new songs in the tired playlists I have set up for family listening.

Can you help me? What are some current artists (last 5 years) you recommend I spend time and money getting to know? Really appreciate it.

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  1. The best tip I can give you is this: don’t spend money. Just go to Pandora and type in the artists that people recommend and it will play that, and similar, artists for you. Let me go to my computer, and I’ll give you a list of Pandora stations to check out. The most popular song I can think of right now, though, is “cups” (you’re gonna miss me when I’m gone)

    • Thank you!! Given the cash outlay thus far, I’ll take free anytime!

      • Okay! Here’s the list 🙂 Feel free to plug the artists into pandora. I think I’ll go post an entry with all of the links to the youtube versions of the songs 😀

        Classical for Studying – James Todd – Quiet Beauty
        Infected Mushroom Radio – Infected Mushroom – The Rat
        Walk Off the Earth Radio – Phillip Phillips – Home
        (alternate favorite would be Walk off the Earth – Gang of Rhythm)
        Beyonce Radio – Alicia Keys – Girl On Fire
        Club/Dance Radio – La Roux – Bulletproof (Dave Aude Cherry Radio Remix)
        Lindsey Stirling Radio – Lindsey Stirling – Elements
        Lana Del Rey Radio – Lana Del Rey – Dark Paradise (Radio Mix)
        Pop Fitness Radio – Macklemore – Can’t Hold Us
        LMFAO Radio – LMFAO – Party Rock Anthem
        Florence + The Machine Radio – Florence + The Machine – Seven Devils
        (alternate favorite would be Mumford & Sons – The Cave)
        Adele Radio – Adele – One and Only
        (alternate favorite would be Adele – Rolling In the Deep)
        (another fave would be Adele – Crazy for You)

  2. You can also try Pink (Blow Me (One Last Kiss)), Train (Drive By), Fun (Some Nights), Imagine Dragons (It’s Time), Neon Trees (Everybody Talks), Of Monsters and Men (Little Talks). Have fun!

  3. Charlotte McMullan

     /  April 24, 2013

    I am Grandmama. I am 70. While driving, alone in the solitude of my aqua-blue Thunderbird, with the top down, I play Johnny Mathis, Barbra Streisand and Frank Sinatra screamingly loud. So There!!!

  4. Try some Adele and Bruno Mars and Gotye! Have fun!

  5. thanks everyone. i have done some serious damage on iTunes tonight. (I know I should Pandora, but I prefer owning it…) Much appreciated!


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